Wed, 04/21/2010 - 00:30
hi there
I just have a question. my partner suffers bipolar type 2 and he has been court attempting to been unfaithfull. He told me he can not control his sex drive when he is haveing a manic moment. We both dont want it to happen agin but we dont know how to treat his hypersexuality. how is it normally treated?
thank you.
louisa
Wed, 03/16/2011 - 05:54
#2
Hypersexuality treatment.
Is he on mood stabilizers? I know that both lithium and depakote have stopped my moments of acute hypersexuality very fast. Hypersexuality is a symptom of mania, if he is still exuding symptoms he may need a higher dose.
Tue, 01/18/2011 - 20:29
#3
Are you my girlfriend? I
Are you my girlfriend? I have to say that after reading the replies I felt alittle guilt... I can see where your coming from on the multiple sex partner thing. I'm a 29yr old (very charming ;) guy. When I go manic getting laid becomes a game to me and when I look back it's devastating to even be in my own skin. Then the depression comes and denial of it being your fault. It scares me to death but, being manic is always amazing fun that can not be explained in words. Some people that read this might get a little defensive about that but it's the truth. As for my 2 cents on treatment... Manic will not last forever and it's just like a drug. He will come down from that high and crash like ton of bricks everytime. He needs help right now! Especially if he's blaming bipolar on it. I just got diagnosed 1yr ago and still am having a hard time following through with meds, doc. Visits, and relationshits. Not to mention the denial of being bipolar. I'm not trying to justify Anyones action. I'm just giving you a single guys point of view, that's dealing with this illness. I bet if I went into detail of some of my actions over the years, you would find a lot of similarities. Follow the advice from the others and I want to personally thank you for taking the time to come here and show me that a bipolar can be loved after all.
Fri, 07/16/2010 - 08:37
#4
hypersexuality
get him help fast. I lost my husband to that 1 1/2 yrs ago. put on wrong meds....he was my world, and now he is gone. I was working with his OCD and Bipolar. He got online with chat, met a woan, left for another place and it is heartbreaking. We were in therapy///the whole 9 yrds. Get a good doctor and the right meds for him. I will pray for you
Fri, 06/11/2010 - 17:31
#5
There is help.
Like the rest of us he can be treated he just needs to seek out help. Search bipolar help sites like these online for support and start seeing a doctor and a therapist reaguarly these people know how to treat his bipolar 2 on a personalized individual basis. Not to sound mean or anything but if he is telling you its all because of his mania its just not. I too have manic and hypomanic episodes, Ive made plenty of mistakes that I regreted during them but never cheating. Though the older we get the more we seem to understand our illness and cope with the symptoms of mania and depresion. Coupled with the correct medication and therapy it truly does get better just give him a chance to get some help. These are "some" of the most popular medications for bipolar mania and hypomania, i wish you the best of luck. (Lithium,Tegretol, Depakote and Trileptal). [Always consult you're docter and never self-medicate]
Brandon,
Fri, 05/21/2010 - 00:51
#6
Hi Louisa. First let me say
Hi Louisa. First let me say that I think it is terrific that you are willing to work with your partner on this. Most couples think of love in the romantic sense and once the feelings fade and real work effort or sacrifice is required they're gone. But love is an act of the will; we choose to love. This goes against our normal tendancy toward selfishness. That's why it's so amazing when we see real love; it's extraordinary, uncommon. It's funny how most people will choose to love their children above all else, but will drop their spouse at the first real trouble. Anyway you will need this kind of love to make this work especially with a BP mate; we're kinda tough to live with.
It's important that your partner take responsibility for managing his illness. He mustn't blame the illness for his actions. I am not saying this to condemn him, the illness is a huge factor; but he can control it. I've done a lot of bad things, but they were all my discision ultimately. My point isn't to condemn him; but to say he is the only one who can control it. It is so easy to blame the illness. We are masters of excusses just like an alcoholic who always has a reason to drink. We either own our illness or it owns us.
As for treatment, he really needs to see a doctor and work with him to establish an effective medication program. This can be a bit frustrating since everyone is different and it will probably take some experimenting to find an effective mix; but once found, it makes all the difference. He also should see a theripist for counseling who can help him with developing coping skills like cognitive therapies, identifying and avoiding triggers, and the like. Also getting involved in a support group either live or on the internet (like this site) can be very helpfull. I would also suggest that you get some counseling as well to help you cope. I hope this helped. It is not easy by any means; but there is hope, there is help. He can make; you can make it. He's going to need all the love and support you can give. My prayers are with you both.
Mon, 01/10/2011 - 15:50
#7
I feel your pain my partner
I feel your pain my partner who at the moment is my ex this is how he carries on. When we split (that is a lot) he goes from relationship to relationship. Its so hard on the partner trying to be there for someone who just seems to want to hurt you it is the most selfish illness. Best of luck.
My experience with Bipolar was very hurtful. Even though I liked the guy very much and still do, I noticed the more I like him the more he hurts me and than he would look at me innocently and really not understand what am I talking about. He truly believes that he cannot hurt. He is the most amazing guy I ever met, but I just do not understand why out of all his friends and people around him, he would only choose me to hurt!? I agree that love is not always sunshine and happiness, but love or relationship cannot be one way only, it will never work, if a person does not want to admit that there is something wrong in his behavior and try to get help, nothing can work out. In order for relationship to work out both people must want the same thing, otherwise one person will always be abused and hurt.