Sat, 08/14/2010 - 05:30
I need help. My 43 yr old bilopar girlfriend of 2 yrs left me a voicemail saying she wants to "take a break." She said she "needed to think about things" and that she would call me in 2 weeks and we could talk. She asked me not to call/text/email her during this time.
We were very much in love I thought..at least I was...so I decided to trust her and do as she asked. ( note: in the past, maybe 4 or 5 times, when she asked for a break, I always contacted her right away and told her I loved her and that I didn't want a break !! Kinda begged her to reconsider, which she always did). This time, which happened 2 days after we had a wonderful time together, and made love at her asking,
I decided to do as she asked. I had no idea why she wanted to take a break, or if I had done anything wrong ? It was always me who apologized when she asked for the earlier breaks, even though I don't think I did anything wrong. Nothing was ever her fault. Well, it's been 3 weeks, and I haven't heard from her. I do know, that 5 days into the break, she signed up for a years worth of eHarmony.com. This broke my heart, as I told her from the very beginning that the one and only thing that I could never forgive was her cheating on me. My first wife did this and it broke my heart. My girlfriend always told me "I could never do that to you !!" I have read 3 books on Bipolar Relationships, and many, many web sites and I am very aware of all the issues associated with this terrible disorder.
I miss her so much, and I love her even more. But I'm afraid I've lost her. I have not tried to contact her, which was at her request in the beginning, and she has not contacted me.
Please, please help me. I am so hurt and so confused. Tell me what to do ?
i have the same worry about my boyfriend because we don't live together (we are 4 years together but we live apart from one another with jobs that tie us where we are at an age you just don't find jobs easily if you live the one you have). he has never broken up with me and he says he loves me but i know that bipolar people can get irrational when they have an episode so the worry is always there, especially that i know that he occasionnally hangs out on adult sites. he is not the kind to have one night stands because he finds it very hard to trust anyone and even more gives himself to people and he is very particular on who touches him physically but still i worry....he has the same worry about me i have to add, because his ex wife used to cheat on him and he did not care because he did not love her anymore about her, just did not want to leave her because of their children but he seems to think that all women eventually cheat on their husbands (what does not help is that i did that to mine, but that's another story and i certainly don't want to repeat that mistake)